Soapbox: M/F relations at Christian universities
01.26.08 (6:33 pm) [edit]Christian universities are great, don't get me wrong, but the mentality on male/female relationships drives me batty. I am female and am very devoted to my boyfriend of nearly 3 years. I am OBVIOUSLY not on the prowl; however, I feel like a convict on the run when I hang out with my male friends without my boyfriend's presence. It's not Greg in any way shape or form; he encourages me to live up to my name and be "blessed with many friends" no matter age, gender, ethnicity, etc. ad nasuem. Our fellow students are the ones enforcing this restriction.
When I go out with one of my guy friends I always make it a point to tell Greg that I am going and who I'm going with because it is inevitable that someone will see us out and mention it to Greg the next time they see him or even call him to question my outing. Just last week two different people made it a point to "tattle tale" on Greg. I don't care that he was out with another girl because I know we have something special and neither of us is going to jeopardize that. All that to say, I hate it because the guys on the tennis team are like brothers to me and I hang out with them all the time so it gets really annoying fending off people questioning my morals. Sounds crazy to those of you that have never attended a Christian university, but it really does happen. Ok, I'm off my angry soapbox now.
posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 01.27.08 (12:36 am)
You have aright to be angry. pay them no attention.
posted by: fractalmom (reply)
post date: 01.27.08 (8:47 am)
so yeah. and it won't get any better once you get married either. the good part is Greg doesn't care....and is comfortable with your relationship and letting you have friends of both genders. and that is a good thing.
jealousy is a horrid thing and doesn't belong in a healthy relationship.
the best thing is for Greg (or you if they tattle about him being seen with another girl) is to say...;
Really? Why are you assuming that YOU are responsible for reporting on her actions to me? Did I ask you to do that? I'll tell you what. YOU stay out of my business/and relationships, and I will stay out of yours, okay? Deal?
that usually stops it.
