Blue
12.18.06 (12:14 am) [edit]I'm feeling a little lonesome right now. I get really mad at myself sometimes, like tonight. I really want to be with people; I'm a people person by nature. Occasionaly, I would prefer to just have some "me" time to just relax and chill out; however, these yernings for time just to myself often come at times when truly exciting gatherings are occuring. Like tonight I had a Christmas party, which I enjoyed but as the night progressed, I got tired of playing games and just wanted to chill out and watch a movie. Movies and parties don't jive very well, so I just left the party early and came home to watch a movie by myself. Movie was fine, but now I wish I had stayed at the party at least a little longer.
Now comes the true "poor me" part. Like I said, I love people and I really do think I make a pretty good pal. The problem is, I have probably close friends I feel I can confide in and have a good time with outside my family and only one reciprocates. I've got lots of aquaintances. I'd like to get to know them better, but I don't get much chance to because all my friends live in the dorms on the other side of town and don't think to call ol' Bria when they're going out somewhere. I suppose I could make more effort, but I've never been the organizer of events, just the tag along. Now, before you pass judgement and say something to the effect of "there's your problem right there" on the rare occasion I DO come up with something to do, I make it a point to invite at least 2 if not 3 or 4 other people. Maybe they don't realize I'd like to join in on the fun. *shrugs* Anyone out there have their two cents to put in?
posted by: seochris (reply)
post date: 12.17.06 (10:21 pm)
Thats not a good thing to hear Bria.
But I surely u shud take this in ur stride and be more adjusting.
God keep u
posted by: 69whisper (reply)
post date: 12.17.06 (10:45 pm)
c'mon be yourself. why are you so depressed over this ?
posted by: babe4jesus55 (reply)
post date: 12.17.06 (10:50 pm)
Reply to: seochris
What do you mean by "be more adjusting"?
posted by: babe4jesus55 (reply)
post date: 12.17.06 (10:53 pm)
Reply to: 69whisper
I wouldn't say I'm depressed, only tired of it. I've been completely to ,thankfully now, nearly close friendless for about 3 years now. Although I saw some statistics on the news this past week that apparently the majority of Americans say that they have 3 close friends. That makes me about normal; however, I've never been content to be normal. (See there; I am being myself. :-) )
posted by: sebastianjoshua (reply)
post date: 12.17.06 (11:32 pm)
the person that i really close is friend and neighbour... not my family
anything of good times and bad times we share together
posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 12.18.06 (7:06 am)
Emotions can be tricky, and sometimes you just can't trust them. You wanted to be with a group, and then you wanted to be alone, and now you want to be with some friends- and all these peaks and valleys with a few hours? I'd say to try to be objective about how you are feeling. If you can, stand aside and look at yourself and realize feelings don't necessarily equal reality. A whole lot of factors go into emotions: hormones, diet and exercise, even music and smells and of course immediate events. So I'd say, for what it is worth (two cents?), lighten up and get a good night's sleep. Then, if these opinions continue after several days, then do some serious considerations and take some specific actions.
posted by: inkspector (reply)
post date: 12.18.06 (8:08 am)
Yes, I think lots of people are in the same boat as you about
friends and commitments to them. Today we have so many choices to
do other things or have more me time (computer time) than we have
time to socialize, sleep, eat, work, and clean the house.
posted by: bawdy (reply)
post date: 12.18.06 (11:51 am)
I think your problem is you're normal, which isn't really a problem. If there are certain friends you'd like to know better, it might be up to you to take the initiative.
posted by: babe4jesus55 (reply)
post date: 12.18.06 (10:38 pm)
Reply to: sebastianjoshua
You are blessed with such a friend. :-)
posted by: babe4jesus55 (reply)
post date: 12.18.06 (10:38 pm)
Reply to: PastorDave
That's some good stuff there. Thanks!
posted by: babe4jesus55 (reply)
post date: 12.18.06 (10:40 pm)
Reply to: inkspector
Yeah, I think that's probably half my problem; by the time I'm done with all the junk I have to do everyday, I just want to relax and go to bed and not see anyone I don't have to. I wish that wasn't so.
posted by: babe4jesus55 (reply)
post date: 12.18.06 (10:42 pm)
Reply to: bawdy
Since when have I been normal? Normalcy is a problem for me! A sickness... no, a plague! *writhes in disgust*
posted by: bawdy (reply)
post date: 12.19.06 (11:02 am)
Well, your friend situation is the norm for many. Otherwise, fly your freak flag proudly! ;-)
posted by: babe4jesus55 (reply)
post date: 12.20.06 (8:47 am)
Reply to: bawdy
:-D *flap flap flap*(That's my flag.)
